11 Healthy Ways to Put Yourself First

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Introduction

The ability to set goals and achieve them requires mustering up the courage to take responsibility for your life. That involves putting yourself first. By putting yourself first, you are simply making it a priority to take care of your mental, physical, emotional, and spiritual needs.

Creating the life that you desire is no one else’s responsibility but yours. You cannot do that if you keep getting in the way of yourself by thinking and caring too much about others. No doubt, caring for the needs of others is a natural human instinct, but it should never be to your detriment. 

Many people are oblivious to the realization that they are the architects of their fortunes. They like to believe that putting the needs of others first, before their own, follows a universal moral code of conduct that you must adhere to, the failure of which makes them less human or less fortunate in life.

There are various reasons why people believe that putting the needs of others ahead of their own is the best and only way to live. They may think people will stop liking them, or that being a tireless caregiver gives them a sense of purpose and fulfillment. Some sincerely feel responsible for others, or worse, they don’t feel worthy of making themselves a priority.

Whichever one of the above categories you may find yourself in, the good news is that you can reset your thinking. Sadly, many people today suffer from thoughts of negating their own needs for the benefit of others. It is, however, essential to know that this thinking is false. You need to unshackle yourself from them to successfully take charge of your life and fully accomplish your goals.

Rather than confining your thoughts to the preconceived notion of scary consequence that would supposedly befall on you if you put yourself first, it is much more reassuring to focus on the numerous benefits guaranteed by putting yourself first. The importance of this is tied to many wholesome benefits some of which include:

• Being more productive
• Being happier and more joyful
• Having more energy
• Receiving more respect from others
• Improved relationships
• Experiencing less fear
• Suffering from less stress
• Feeling less resentment
• Experiencing less depressed

These are the key areas where you stand to benefit if you learn to put yourself first. In this report, we will be looking at various healthy ways to put yourself first to gain the many wonderful benefits.

Strategies for Putting Yourself First

Below are some healthy ways and tips that can help you develop the habit of putting yourself first without burning bridges or negatively affecting your energy, enthusiasm, and motivation. Following them will help you achieve your goals, protect your mental and physical wellbeing, and overcome even your biggest challenges.

1. Choose Your Purpose

Having a clear purpose in life is essential. It is the simplest, most basic thing every person needs to live a fulfilling and satisfying life. Without a clear sense of purpose, you will end up living your life haphazardly. Your purpose also makes it easier for you to say ‘No’ to people and things that do not align with your highest good. Being aware of your life purpose and living it helps you identify those things that you need to do and when you need to do them. By consciously reaffirming your purpose regularly, you will be inspired to multiply your efforts of taking action to see your purpose fulfilled.

• Live by a Vision

Putting yourself first also requires that you develop a clear vision of the life that you want to lead. A vision keeps you focused on the journey of your life. A clear vision will allow you to effectively prioritize your tasks and projects as the important things will align with your purpose and vision of your ultimate life. To get clear about your vision, start by reflecting on these three questions:

• Who do I want to be?
• What do I want to do?
• How do you want to feel?

If you are unsure about your vision, ruminating on these questions will assist you in getting clear about what you want out of life.

• Set Personal Goals and Plan

Setting personal goals is a wise way to ensure your vision becomes a reality. Goals make the realization of your vision much more achievable and will keep you motivated and focused on what you want out of life. After taking the time to set your goals, set aside regular time to plan how you will achieve each of them.

• Learn New Skills

As you draw up your goals and develop your vision, you may find you need to learn new skills to make your ideal life a reality. Take some time to identify those areas that you may be lacking in knowledge and skills. Then take proactive steps to bridge the gap between your present level and your desired level regarding your knowledge and skills.

• Set Personal Boundaries

Setting person boundaries is a skill you need to master when learning how to put yourself first because you will need it a lot on every step of your journey. That is especially true if you tend to be a people-pleaser. Others are used to you backing down and giving them what you want, so you’ll need to stay strong. Look them in the eye and kindly say, “No, thank you.” Even when they try to convince you to think otherwise, practice sticking to your decision by not get pressured into consenting. Setting personal boundaries is a vital skill because it enables you to defend your time and your rights which is an essential component of putting yourself first.

• Get Exercise

Putting yourself first isn’t only about goal setting and getting ahead. It’s also about taking the time for self-care. After all, if you don’t take care of your health, you’ll be unable to live your purpose or fulfill your life’s vision. Put yourself and your health first by starting a program of regular exercise as soon as possible if you aren’t already doing so. Engaging in a brisk daily walk is all that’s needed to improve and maintain your health.

• Eat Healthily

A healthy diet is equally as important as your body’s need to exercise. Eating a nutritious diet is a huge part of taking care of your health and putting yourself first. If your diet needs a major overhaul, take it one step at a time and work your way up to your ideal diet. Remember, putting yourself first is about being kind to yourself.

• Sleep Enough

Getting sufficient sleep is another essential component of putting yourself first. It is also necessary for boosting your performance and replenishing your energy. By getting enough sleep, you will be better equipped to face the hurdles of the new day with greater confidence, energy, and enthusiasm. Never allow anyone or anything come between you and the need to get enough sleep.

• Schedule Relaxation

Sometimes you may be lacking the energy you need to live your ultimate life. Rather than trying to push through such times, it is better to maximize your relaxation and recovery. You can engage in activities that will help reduce fatigue and replenish your energy, such as meditation, yoga, massage, or a quick nap. If you find you run low on energy and motivation on a regular basis, start scheduling relaxation or downtime into your day. A consistent relaxation routine will keep you on more of an even-keel, so you don’t burn out.

1. Journal

Apparently, you have 60,000 or more thoughts per day. When you feel you have a lot to do and you are overwhelmed with too many ideas, journaling will help clear your head. Journaling can also lead to better self-awareness, which is the foundation of putting yourself first. You can journal any way you wish—with paper and pen or by using an app. You might choose to journal every day or only when you feel overwhelmed or unsettled. Whatever works for you is perfect.

1. Practice Gratitude

Take some time each day to reflect on the positives in your life. It’s easy to focus on the things we’d like to change and neglect to be appreciative for all we have. It is very important to have a realistic perspective on your life and identify the positives for the sake of your health and wellbeing. As you find the time to write down and reflect on all the things you are grateful for each day, you will reduce your stress levels and naturally find more and more to be grateful for in your life.

Conclusion

Putting yourself first is something you must make a conscious effort to do. You must fill your cup first, or you will end up with nothing left to give to others. Even when you face negative reactions from people who feel that you are selfish for putting yourself first, remembering the tips outlined above and applying them will give you the wherewithal to go on regardless and live the life that you desire.

The Women of Washington’s Spy Ring

Written by Kit Sergeant

If you enjoy historical fiction and American Revolution nonfiction, you will love this book. Sergeant focuses on three female members of the Culper Spy Ring, George Washington’s main source of spying on British intelligence during the war.

Readers follow the lives of three women, Elizabeth Burgin, Margaret Coghlin, and Sarah, Sally Townsend. Slowly and inextricably, each of these woman’s lives entertwine with more familiar names in history like Aaron Burr and Benedict Arnold.

An intriguing and compelling read for fans of spy novels and historical fiction featuring lesser known but important historical figures.

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This report includes nine powerful tips and three actionable steps you can take right away.

It also includes a list of suggested reading for those who are looking for even more information.

TOP TIPS

When you think of spring-cleaning, you probably think of the time of year where you go all out cleaning up your house. You know the time you move the fridge and sweep out all the nooks and crevices. What if you took that same idea, but instead of cleaning your physical surroundings, you tidied up your life? If you don’t quite understand what that means, here are nine examples that can get you started.

• Take Stock

Before you start to spring-clean your life, you should take careful stock of how you are currently doing. Do you have goals? How are they going? Are there any areas of your life you’d like to change up? Taking stock of where you are at will help you direct your energy where it’s needed.

• Clean Up Your Relationships

Do you have any toxic relationships? Maybe it is time to part ways with these people. If the people in your life don’t cheer you up, lift you up or build you up, why are they in your life anyway?

• Tidy Up Your Habits

It might be time to clean up those bad habits of yours. Bad habits add up over time and cost you in the long run. If you feel like you already do a good job of that, focus on building some new positive habits.

• Clear Your Mind

We all got a lot going on in our heads. Maybe you should take some time to clean things up a bit. Developing a daily meditation practice is a great way to clear your mind. You might also try journaling. Getting those thoughts spinning around in your head onto paper can make a world of difference.

• Unplug

Technology is great, but sometimes we need to unplug and live in the moment. Don’t be afraid to prune some of our social media accounts. Aim to spend less time on your devices and more time just taking in the world around you.

• Refresh Your Fitness Routine

Has your fitness routine got boring or stale? Do you even have a fitness routine? Why not shake things up? Spring-cleaning is all about out with old and in with the new. Find a new exercise, sport, or activity that gets you excited, and try to fit it into your daily routine.

• Sort Your Diet

A great way to tidy up your life is to clean up your diet a bit. Think about adding more natural whole foods and cut down on your guilty pleasures. Find a healthy way of eating that you can sustain.

• Organize Your Workspace

This is almost real spring-cleaning! Organizing your workspace is a great way to boost your productivity and get more excited about working in general. Reorganizing is less about cleaning and more about making sure every item has its space and every space has a purpose.

• Rearrange Your Goals

For the vast majority of people, some of their goals work out, and some don’t. This is why it’s important to adjust your goals once in a while. Figure out what is working, and double down on that. Find out what isn’t working, and figure out why. Make it a regular practice to check in on your goals.

ACTIONABLE STEPS

1. Reflect on the past year of your life. Make a list of things that worked and another list of things that didn’t. This will help you direct your “cleaning” efforts.
   
   
2. Tidy up your social media by unfollowing the people who constantly annoy or push your buttons. Think about who matters to you, and unfollow those that don’t.
   
   
3. Schedule your spring-cleaning time into your calendar. Choose a few days over the upcoming weeks to focus solely on tidying up your life.

FURTHER READING

• Winning the War in Your Mind: Change Your Thinking, Change Your Life

• 30 Days – Change your habits, Change your life

• Change Your Schedule, Change Your LIfe

• Make Your Bed: Little Things That Can Change Your Life

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The Haunted Lighthouse: Tales of the Lost and Found

Written by Shana Gorian

Thirteen-year-old Noah Wright and his twelve-year-old sister, Oakley have just begun summer vacation in Westport Harbor, a coastal town in Maine. Noah’s best friend, Andre, and the family dog, Cooper are ready to have some fun. What could go wrong?

Noah possesses insatiable curiosity and takes too many risks. Oakley demonstrates more caution but enjoys action. Andre’s personality tends to be more cautious, but he is also ambitious. Cooper, like most dogs, never hesitates to jump into an adventure.

It takes little time for the friends to snoop around and uncover a decommissioned lighthouse where they find clues about a mystery that has haunted the sleepy fishing village for the past century. An antique boat store, a mysterious shipwreck, and scares from the supernatural combine to create an intriguing novel for middle-grade and young adult readers.

I received an advance review copy from the publisher and voluntarily chose to read and review it with my honest opinions for no monetary compensation.

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This post is sponsored by Rebecca Laxton. The review and opinions expressed in this post are based on my personal view.

ABOUT THE BOOK

The Metamorphosis of Emma Murry

Written by Rebecca Laxton

Illustrated by Gracie Laxton

Ages 10+ | 252 Pages

Publisher: Warren Publishing, Inc | ISBN-13: 9781960146236

Publisher’s Book Summary: Thirteen-year-old Emma Murry has three goals for summer vacation: finish her art terms project, land an ollie, and help the environmental club save the monarchs.

But then her Instagram crush Jeb Scott and his celebrity dad Chester make a surprise visit to Black Mountain. At first, Emma is thrilled, but then she overhears their plans to destroy the monarch butterfly garden to build a ski resort. She and her best friend Sophie add a new summer goal: STOP. THE. SCOTTS.

Emma ignores Sophie’s warnings and makes friends with Jeb, convinced she can change his mind. Then when Chester receives a mysterious death threat, Emma teams up with Jeb to investigate. She slowly discovers people are not what they seem as she attempts to untangle friendships, organize a protest, and uncover supernatural secrets hiding on the mountain.

Emma will have to go through her own metamorphosis by overcoming her fears and facing what she dreads. If she fails, she could jeopardize everything—butterflies, friendships, and her family.

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ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Rebecca Laxton has served school communities as an afterschool program director, reading specialist, and school psychologist. While working for Boone County Schools, she was named the Kentucky School Psychologist of the Year for collaborating with teachers and administrators to write and evaluate an emotional intelligence curriculum. 

Rebecca is a member of the Society of Children’s Book Writers and Illustrators, Charlotte Literary Arts, and the North Carolina Writers Association. Her short memoir, “Throw Like a Girl,” about playing on a mostly boys Little League team can be found in The Love of Baseball (McFarland 2017). Currently, she is a dyslexia practitioner and enjoys reading, writing and spending time in the Blue Ridge Mountains with her husband, four kids, and three dogs. 

Rebecca invites you to visit her online at www.rebeccalaxton.com.

ABOUT THE ILLUSTRATOR

Gracie Laxton is a freelance graphic designer and dance choreographer from North Carolina but is currently based in New York City. A 2021 graduate of Central Academy of Technology and Arts in Monroe, NC, she studied art as part of The Savannah College of Art and Design’s high school joint enrollment program. Currently, she attends Marymount Manhattan College, pursuing degrees in dance and art.

MY REVIEW OF THIS BOOK:

The Metamorphosis of Emma Murry

Written by Rebecca Laxton

Illustrations by Gracie Laxton

Thirteen-year-old Emma Laxton plans three goals for her summer. Emma needs to complete an art project, perfect her skateboarding skills, and plant a garden for the migrating monarch butterflies. She is spending the summer at Black Mountain with her family and best friend, Sophie.

Things rapidly get complicated when the Scotts come into town with a plan to develop a ski resort that will endanger the eco system. To make matters worse, young Jeb Scott develops a romantic interest in Emma. She is determined to get closer to Jeb to derail their family’s plans.

The dialogue in this novel fits perfectly with the characters who represent coming of age teens struggling to find their own identity and express their interests within their communities. Laxton manages to teach art lessons through her chapter introductions. That is an unexpected bonus to reading this novel. This book covers topics that may be of particular interest to middle grade and young adult audiences. I learned about the ollie in the art of skateboarding and the world of the monarch butterflies. The elements of a budding romance and hints of the supernatural keep the plot unpredictable and appealing to a struggling, coming of age audience.

The book kept a baby-boomer engaged; I predict that it will be a page-turner for the targeted pre-teen and young adult audience.

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Speakers! The Quick Public Speaking to Business Method: Turning Your Talk into an Ongoing Revenue Stream

Written by Ellen Finklestein and Connie Ragen Green

The only course you will ever need if you are just starting out in business or want to incorporate speaking into your business as an effective tool.

While I have followed both of these authors in blog articles and videos, this book brings all the tools together in one place. It is easy to read, follow, and implement.

As a historian, I appreciated the section on the history of public speaking because one must know where something comes from and how it evolved in order to understand its role in our lives today. Readers are taught how to choose appropriate topics, set goals, find audience niche, and then use public speaking as a means to create an ongoing revenue stream for a business.

The authors discuss the importance of influencer relationships, creating funnels, and the various ways to transmit your talk. Then there is the art of storytelling and the types of stories you can use in public speaking.

The book creates a feeling of joy and optimism that will incentivize the reader to jump in and seize the opportunities offered by public speaking.

I highly recommend this guide to anyone at all curious about public speaking.

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Never Look at a Failure As Final

Do you know anyone who seems to be bulletproof? You know, that friend of yours that takes failures in stride and is always smiling and moving forward in life. How do they do it? You know they’re not immune to setbacks or hardship. They just seem to be able to bounce back quickly. Life’s inevitable difficulties don’t keep them from living the life they desire.

By the way, that person can be you. Mental resilience is something that can be developed. It’s not a character trait you have to be born with. Every time you suffer some type of loss or failure, you have an opportunity to respond with resilience and emotional control.

“Never confuse a single defeat with a final defeat.”

That is such a powerful reminder that your outlook is everything. The person with resilience chooses a positive outlook. They understand that negative things are going to happen in their life. Yet they don’t allow that to be the end of their journey.

They don’t embrace any single failure or loss as the final declaration of who they are.

Just Take One More Step

Resilience means persisting. You keep going. You push forward and see life’s difficulties as nothing more than challenges. You can either become stronger and more capable or allow a defeat or failure to be a statement of who you are.

This can seem like simple advice, but the truth is, sometimes, the hardship we encounter in life can be truly debilitating. We simply don’t see a way out. The worst of possible things has happened, and there’s simply no way that we see any good coming from this.

When this happens, as it inevitably will in life, just take one step forward.

Don’t worry about some big end result. You may be in a terrible situation. If you are, just make one positive movement.

Have one positive thought. Move in the direction of a positive outcome. Even if it’s miles away, don’t worry about that end result. Just take the first step that moves you a little bit away from the difficulty you encountered.

Never let any single defeat be your final defeat. The instant you decide to relentlessly push forward, you show the world and yourself that you are a resilient human being. You won’t be kept down for long because your unbreakable mental resolve won’t allow you to be defined by defeat.

You can learn to bounce back and help others do the same.

IT IS NEVER TO EARLY TO START DEVELOPING RESILIENCE FOR WHAT LIFE WILL THROW OUR WAY! START TODAY!

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The answer is PROBABLY NOT!

Take a look at these scenarios.

1. AN IMPORTANT SITUATION WHERE YOU DEFINITELY NEED TO BE RIGHT

2. SILLY SITUATIONS THAT DRAG ON AND YOU FEEL YOU HAVE TO BE RIGHT

THE ONES THAT DON’T NEED RESOLVING ARE THOSE WHERE YOU WANT PEOPLE TO BEND TO YOUR WILL AND DO WHAT YOU WANT.

THESE ARE THE ONES YOU NEED TO BE STRONGE ENOUGH TO QUIT ON.

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Do you ever wonder what really makes you tick?

How can you get in touch with your subconscious?

Here are seven different ways to discover what lies below the surface and then learn how to connect with it effectively.

Contents

1.) Positive Affirmations.

2.) Meditation..

3.) Use Free Association..

4.) Daydream Visualizations.

5.) Find A Creative Hobby.

6.) Get Plenty of Sleep.

7.) Listen To Your Instincts and Your Inner Self

1.) Positive Affirmations

One of the best ways of tapping into your subconscious mind is by the use of positive affirmations. Affirmations bypass your conscious mind with its tendency to examine and judge everything and go straight to your subconscious mind.

Used consistently for a sustained period of time, positive affirmations can successfully reprogram your self-talk to make it more positive and upbeat. This unleashes the power of your subconscious to help you achieve your goals because you will have removed the blocks created by self-doubt and a negative self-image.

Using positive affirmations in this way is simple but time-consuming. First, you need to know the biggest issues you have to work on. Pick the ones that stand directly between you and your goals, not the ones that are only minor obstacles. Write them down so you know what you need to work on.

You should only work on one issue at a time. Select a single issue. This issue may be self-confidence, doubt, fear, or anything that stands in your way. Find or create some positive affirmations around it that speak to you. You only need two or three affirmations. You can find plenty of affirmations online and in books or write your own.

The only requirements are a) these affirmations must be positive and b) they need to resonate with you. If both things are not true, you will not succeed with this method.

Next, you are going to start speaking aloud, thinking, or writing down these affirmations 3-5 times each several times a day. Many people speak them aloud in front of a mirror or while driving. You can think of them to yourself when you are around other people. All you need to write them down is a pen and a sheet of scrap paper.

You can also use a combination of these three methods throughout the day.

You should use your affirmations no less than three times per day -once in the morning, once before bed, and once sometime during the day. The more you use them, however, the better and faster they will work. You must be consistent and use the affirmations every day for them to work.

Over the course of weeks or a few months, these affirmations will sink into your subconscious and slowly reprogram your self-talk and your self-image. The negative thoughts they are replacing will slowly fade and eventually become extinguished entirely. When you see success with one issue, you can move on to the next.

2.) Meditation

You have undoubtedly heard about meditation and its many uses. It is one of the best, if not the best, methods of tapping into your subconscious known. It is primarily used for that purpose, in fact, and has been for thousands of years because it works so well.

There are many forms of meditation. The most common, and the one you have probably heard about several times, is the method where you sit cross-legged and focus on your breathing while clearing your mind of all thoughts. That is one method, yes, but it does not work for everyone.

Not only do some people not like traditional meditation, but others simply cannot use it due to issues such as ADHD. The other forms of meditation tend to be much more user-friendly for them.

A few of the kinds of meditation available for you to choose from include mantra/chanting meditation, movement mediation, progressive-relaxation meditation, focused meditation, mindfulness meditation, loving-kindness meditation, guided meditation, and visualization meditation.

You can spend months or years just trying different kinds of meditation to find the one that is best for you. You do not need a teacher or a class to learn meditation. If you want to do some kinds, such as guided meditation, you will need a guide, but you can find these in recordings online or use an app.

Meditation will not only help you tap into your subconscious, but it will give you many other benefits as well. Meditation helps you relax, lowers stress, anxiety, and depression, and increases overall well-being. People who meditate regularly tend to be healthier than those who do not. They are also happier overall.

Try several different kinds of meditation before you decide on the one (or ones) that you want to use for your personal practice. There is no rule saying you only have to do one type. You can switch back and forth whenever you want to.

Whichever form of meditation you decide to try, be sure to start slowly. You do not want to dive into an extensive form of a new practice without preparation. Trying to meditate for forty-five minutes five days a week starting from nothing is a great recipe for fast failure.

Instead, start slowly and do your meditation practice a few minutes at a time. Do it two or three times per week. Once you have it down to a routine, you can gradually add days and times to your practice.

3.) Use Free Association

Free association is a common technique used to access the innermost thoughts of your subconscious mind. These are the ones that you have trouble even tapping into, much less expressing to yourself or others in an intelligible form.

Free association works well to let you express those thoughts and the feelings behind them. It is used for many applications, most particularly in therapy, but a less intense form of it has been used as a method of brainstorming creative ideas.

If you want to try free association, it is paramount that you do so in a quiet, safe space. Safe does not refer to physical safety here (though that is also important), but emotional safety. Do this exercise either alone or with people you trust to support you and not exercise judgment.

There are two ways to do free association. The first is topical. That is, you choose a topic -usually a single word -to base the session on. The second is completely free and just makes use of the first thought to come into your mind when you start the session.

Whenever you are ready to do a free association session, go to the space you have selected and make yourself comfortable. You can do this alone or have another person there to assist you.

You are going to be speaking your thoughts, so if you are alone you will need to dictate your thoughts to a recorder or a text-to-speech device. If you have someone else with you, they will need something to write your thoughts on.

When you are ready, either think about the topic you have chosen or wait to see what comes to your mind. Begin speaking these thoughts aloud as they come up. Do not analyze them. Do not hold them back to see what they are. Do not judge them. Just speak them as they come to your mind.

It is extremely important that you do this properly and it will be difficult for you to do so for the first few times. We all want to examine our thoughts before they leave our brains -especially via speech. We have filters in place to keep us from doing so, and you will have to let those filters down to use this method.

Doing so lets you tap into your unconscious mind directly, however. Keep speaking your thoughts until you run out of thoughts on the subject or cannot keep going. Later you can go back and see what you said. You will learn much about yourself and your beliefs with this method.

4.) Daydream Visualizations

You are probably familiar with the use of visualizations as a technique to help you achieve your goals and dreams. Deliberate visualizations are often used for the purpose of motivating you and training your subconscious mind to believe you can reach them and help you do it.

When you use visualizations that way, what you visualize is deliberate. You think about what you want and picture it in your mind. You see it, feel it, and taste it as if it were real in the here and now. You do this often and spend a good deal of time doing it every day.

You can also use a different visualization process to tap into your subconscious. Are you trying to understand your thoughts, feelings, or motivations? Are you not clear about what you want? Is your subconscious sending you mixed signals? Are you just plain confused about life? Daydream visualizations can help you with all of these things.

This process is simple, but like many simple techniques, it is much harder to do it properly than it seems. The first thing you need to do is find a quiet place and make yourself comfortable. Close your eyes and relax.

Now let your mind begin to drift. Do not try to guide it. Do not tell it what to do or what to think about. See what comes up. Let yourself drift into daydreaming like you are a child imagining riding a dragon or scoring the winning goal in the big game.

What comes up and forms dreams and images in your mind will be your innermost dreams and desires, what you really want from life. Some of the things you daydream about might be things you had no idea you wanted, such is how closely we sometimes guard our hearts.

Both your conscious and subconscious minds may try to fight you in this process. Sometimes we try to keep our innermost dreams secret from even ourselves to protect us from the hurt and rejection that can accompany them. We can be our own harshest critics.

It may take you several sessions to relax enough and let your guard down enough to let yourself engage in this process without fighting. That is normal, particularly if you are experiencing a lot of confusion. The more confused you are, in general, the more your mind will fight this process.

Keep going, and you will eventually succeed and be able to tap into the deepest parts of your subconscious mind.

5.) Find A Creative Hobby

The subconscious is extremely complex and often not very direct. This means that tapping into it -and the power it holds -often requires approaching it from the rear or side. One of the best ways to do this is to access your creativity.

Every human being is creative. It is part of our nature. You do not have to be an exceptional artist to be creative or enjoy creating. The subconscious mind is the source of all our creativity, which means that engaging in creative pursuits inevitably taps into the subconscious.

Doing this gives you benefits that can go far beyond making art. It can help you solve problems, figure things out, come up with ideas, and more. That is all just from tapping into your subconscious mind. Creating has other benefits too, including stress reduction and relaxation. It is also fun, something that is important even when you are an adult.

Most hobbies count as creative hobbies. The traditional artistic pursuits -painting, sculpting, pottery, and so forth -are all creative, of course, but there are many more. Did you know that woodworking is a creative hobby? So is glassblowing.

All of the fiber arts, from knitting to spinning, count as creative hobbies. Even adult coloring books are creative. Any hobby in which you make or modify something is a creative hobby, whether it is painting pre-built figures from a hobby store, creating an oil painting from scratch, or crocheting a scarf.

You can find a creative hobby to suit you no matter what your budget is or what your interests are. Look around and try different ones until you find something that catches your interest and creates that “spark” of creativity in you. It does not matter what you choose, as long as you choose one or more that you like.

Do pick a hobby that is different from your day job, however. If you do a lot of writing at your job, pick something not related to words. If you paint for a living, pick something that has nothing to do with paint.

You should engage in whatever hobby you choose regularly to get the most benefit from it. Consistency is the key to this method as with so many others. Try to set aside some time at least twice a week just for working on your hobby. Half an hour is enough to give you the benefits and help you tap into your subconscious.

6.) Get Plenty of Sleep

You may be wondering what sleep has to do with tapping into your subconscious mind. Plenty, as it turns out. What does your conscious mind do while you are sleeping? Absolutely nothing. It shuts off completely.

At no other time in your life (unless you are unconscious for medical reasons) does your conscious mind completely switch off. This gives your subconscious mind free rein to control your body and do whatever it wants and it wants to do plenty -process your memories, help you repair cell damage, solve problems and think about anything that has been bothering you.

Sleep is one of the best, most unhindered ways to tap into your subconscious simply because your conscious mind cannot get in the way. How many times have you woken up in your life knowing the answer to a question or having an idea for solving a problem? Your subconscious did that for you while you were sleeping.

We give sleep short shrift in this society. Sometimes it seems like going without enough sleep is a badge of honor. It is anything but. Not getting enough sleep damages your health, wrecks your job performance, and can impair your relationships. Not to mention that it keeps you from listening to your subconscious.

Our subconscious mind not only does the things mentioned above when we sleep, but it talks to our conscious mind and tells it things (like answers and ideas). It does this through our dreams. To tap into your subconscious mind and talk to it like this, you have to get enough sleep.

Dreaming primarily occurs in the REM stage, which is the deepest stage of sleep. We are supposed to get lots of REM sleep but in our culture today often get much less than is ideal. This means we do not have enough chances to talk to our subconscious minds, among all the other issues it brings.

If you are interested in tapping into your subconscious mind, one of the most important things you can do is make getting enough sleep each night a priority. Most people need between 7 and 9 hours per night. You will need to experiment to find out how much is right for you.

You should also start noticing your dreams when you wake up each morning. Sometimes they are random and meaningless, but most of the time they are indications that your subconscious mind is trying to tell you something.

7.) Listen To Your Instincts and Your Inner Self

Sometimes tapping your subconscious mind is difficult and requires that you learn new methods of self-awareness like those discussed above. Sometimes it is absurdly simple. As in, all you need to do is learn to listen to it.

Your subconscious mind wants to communicate with your conscious mind. It is designed to do so, after all. It is only us silly humans with our silly ways of doing things and ridiculous notions that make this difficult.

Two of those ridiculous notions are that instincts are not real, or at least cannot be trusted, and that we do not have an inner voice that tries to guide us. Neither one of these notions is true. 

What those things are is your subconscious mind trying to communicate with you. It cannot do so directly -the subconscious is rarely able to speak in words and never in a conversational manner -so it does so indirectly by giving you hints and clues.

It would be so much better if your subconscious could metaphorically tap you on the shoulder and say “Hey! I think you should pay attention to this!” Unfortunately, it does not work that way.

Have you ever gotten a hunch that something was wrong and the hunch turned out to be right? Have you ever guessed the answer to a question based on something your gut told you? Both of these are examples of your subconscious mind talking to you and trying to tell you something.

What this means is that you do not need to learn any fancy techniques or methods to begin tapping into your subconscious. The best thing you can do is also one of the oldest and simplest methods of learning anything: start listening.

That is right: taking the time to listen to yourself is one of the best methods for tapping into your subconscious mind.

Instead of ignoring hunches and that little voice inside, start paying attention to them. Slow down and listen when something inside of you is speaking. It is your subconscious mind trying to tell you something, and it has a reason for doing so.

This is not to say that your subconscious mind is infallible, and your instincts and hunches are always right. Sometimes they will be wrong. That is unavoidable. There is still a reason for the message, however, and it may be just as important as the message itself.

But you will never know what it is if you do not slow down and start listening.

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As They Slept

Written by Andy Leeks

A short, interesting read that can be picked up or put down according to your schedule. Probably a good book to read on a lunch break or work commute.

The author takes upon himself the challenge of writing autobiographical thoughts down while commuting to work. His point is that sleeping on the train on the way to work is an utter waste of time after spending the previous night snoozing.

His recollections are random ranging from funny to trivial, to serious. While the book is amusing in spots, I would not classify it as a comical read.

If you are looking for light reading that can be readily interrupted, this book is a good choice for you.

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